So what is all this talk of “International Day of Self Love”?
Formerly known as Valentine’s Day, International Day of Self Love is a chosen day to recognise and honor yourself as your numero uno in life. In 2016 we rolled out the idea once we realised that there wasn’t a SINGLE calendar day that was dedicated to YOU. We’re always giving praise, recognising, and supporting other people. Yes, we get to talk about ourselves and be showered with gifts on our birthdays, but we wanted more than that.
It’s incredibly important for women, because as women we’re designed to be the care-takers. We’re the nurturers. We’re the ones that are wanting to fix everyone and everything else but ourselves. It comes systemically programmed from raising children. We’re designed by nature, as well as society, to be expected to tend to everyone else’s needs before our own.
My favourite example is the oxygen mask. When you’re on a plane, the flight attendant gives you pretty clear instructions; Put your own mask on first before assisting others. I’ve been on hundreds of flights, all over the world, and I can tell you I’ve never ONCE heard anything different. This is simply because facts are facts- you simply CANNOT help other people if your ass is dead! So put your oxygen mask on first! Tend to you FIRST! Love you FIRST!
This ceremony is an opportunity for you to outwardly, through means of ritual, commit to yourself that you are going to put you and your needs ahead of everyone else in life. Even your own children. Because if you aren’t able to be happy and free, your children are going to get a version of you that is 95%, or 85% or maybe even 50%. Same goes to your partner, your friends, your co-workers and your family. If you’re too busy saying “yes” when you really want to be saying “no”, to doing things that are taking up too much of your ‘me time’, then you’re going to be rundown, resentful and not close to hitting 100%.
Learning to cultivate self love is hard yards. It doesn’t come naturally. This is why you’ve got to get your ass to GL18 and learn some tools! But first and foremost is you must first make the commitment that you’re going to do you-
So we invite you to get out your favourite dress. Even get out your old wedding dress. And if that shit doesn’t fit, cut or tie it so it does! Go out and buy a new one! We also encourage you to bake a cake. Buy a cake. A slice. The whole cake- doesn’t matter. But get yourself a morsel or something that lights up your tastebuds because it’ll be included in the ceremony.
The event will take place on GRRRL Clothing’s Facebook page as well as our IG Live accounts.
Feb 11th, 1pm PST (4pm EST) … (if you’re in Singapore, that’s 5AM MONDAY MORNING FEB 12TH lol)
-come dressed in your favourite dress/top hat/whatever makes you feel like the Queen you are
-get dolled up. Take the time to do what you do when you’d “go out” on a first date with someone else. Do that shit for you!
-bring a piece of cake, or whatever decadent treat you’d normally eat then punish yourself over
-bring a ring. A new ring, and old ring, a rubberfknband.
-be by a mirror so you can look in it and repeat after me