Hey everyone! GRRRL Clothing is nothing without you. The history of this amazing brand starts with your personal GRRRL story! I’m Kicking off this new year with some GRRRL Talk and Maddie Harr’s story!
SPUNKY: How did you discover GRRRL?
MADDIE: I was introduced to GRRRL by one of my very best friends, Beth. She was at GRRRL Live and attended the OG event in 2017. She reached out to me as she knew I had been struggling with my self esteem and self love for a VERY long time.
SPUNKY: What made you want to become part of this movement?
MADDIE: I’ll be honest, I’m a sucker for fun clothing. I was already hooked from the get go hah! What’s kept me around and deepening my love for GRRRL has to be the message and the community. I’ve never been a part of something where I feel completely comfortable baring the emotional scars I carried and I feel that I can with GRRRL. It’s truly changed my outlook in so many things.
SPUNKY:What was the first thing you wore?
MADDIE: The OG unicorn next levels and the Guerilla GRRRL muscle tee!
SPUNKY:How did finding GRRRL change your life?
MADDIE: GRRRL came into my life during a very difficult time. My mom has just passed away from a short and completely unexpected battle with lung cancer. My mom had been my biggest cheerleader and I felt a huge hole in my life. I have Major Depressive Disorder, and I could feel myself going down a dark road. I felt so lost. But then GRRRL came along and suddenly I was wanting to try new things again! I had always wanted to try CrossFit and powerlifting, but I gained a lot of weight since my mom’s illness. I didn’t think I could do it. Seeing GRRRLs of all shapes and sizes gave me the confidence I needed to give it a shot. As a result, I now have some of the best friends I could have ever asked for and my self esteem is up. For the first time in a long time, I’m excited to live. I don’t think I would still be here without the support I received from my fellow GRRRLS.
SPUNKY:What would you say to other women out there right now, what do you think they need to hear?
MADDIE: You are enough. You’re not too much or too little, you are just right. Breathe. Your sisters are here and they will help you navigate this journey.
That says it all! My heart is full of GRRRL love and all the feels!
Hey everyone! GRRRL Clothing is nothing without you. The history of this amazing brand starts with your personal GRRRL story! I am making it my mission to share your stories by featuring one special GRRRL every few weeks! Lets see what Anneliese had to say in this edition of #GRRRLTALK.
SPUNKY: How did you discover GRRRL?
ANNELIESE: I discovered GRRRL online, I saw a video of KO on the street taking the GRRRL pledge with folks and admired her boldness and willingness to defy cultural narratives aggressively and publicly.
SPUNKY: What was the first thing you wore?
ANNELIESE: The first thing I wore was the RUN LIKE A GRRRL shirt.
SPUNKY: How did finding GRRRL change your life and what made you want to become part of this movement?
ANNELIESE: Background on me,I have been deep into weightlifting and strength and conditioning since I was 13 years old and now I am set to graduate with a degree in Kinesiology and a minor in Gender, Women, and Sexuality Studies from Kansas State University in the spring semester. As a gay woman and as someone who presents more masculine of center most of the time, I found the norms in the social cultures in bodybuilding and in weightlifting disturbing and unwelcoming on a lot of levels. Homophobia, harmful gender stereotypes, misunderstandings about race, and blatant self absorbed vanity seemed to abound. I was left feeling isolated from a training community that I desperately wanted. I knew there had to be others like myself, others who just wanted to be strong, who wanted other women to rise up, who wanted to see disabled folks, and queers, and all the freak outcasts of the world become empowered and be warriors, and who wanted to dismantle the beliefs and norms that poison our world, but I wasn’t sure if a cohesive community existed. Finding GRRRL showed me that this community was real. GRRRL is filled with so many women of all shapes, sizes, races, abilities, ages, etc… and I love that because it is liberating. GRRRL changed my life because it gives me encouragement and hope about where this community can head and the types of effective change it can create in people at one on one level, a community level, and on a global level.
SPUNKY: What would you say to other women out there right now, what do you think they need to hear?
ANNELIESE: If I were to tell women one thing right now, it would be to take time to investigate all the inner workings of her person and to get to know her and to love her through belief and action, and it would be to stay encouraged and to stay connected because I believe that together we are strong.
Keep talking that GRRRLTALK
love you all
Hey everyone! GRRRL Clothing is nothing without you. The history of this amazing brand starts with your personal GRRRL story! I am making it my mission to share your stories by featuring one special GRRRL each month! Lets see what Josie had to say in this edition of #GRRRLTALK.
SPUNKY: How did you discover GRRRL?
JOSIE: Randomly on FB! I came across a few of Kortney’s videos and the rest is history. I Joined immediately after that.
SPUNKY: What made you want to become part of this movement?
JOSIE: The realness! Women being strong and standing up for unity. There is a collectiveness amongst the ladies, although we may believe different things and come from different backgrounds we are all one, and we stand as one.
SPUNKY: What was the first thing you wore?
SPUNKY: How did finding GRRRL change your life?
JOSIE: I went through a pretty horrific time earlier this year, and not once did I feel alone.In our closed Facebook group my grief questions were answered with love and sympathy, and when I needed a laugh there was always something there. I’m a SHW powerlifter in NZ, and I’ve never really felt out of place. Being a part of GRRRL helped me realise that my quirks and interests were mine, and they are what makes me who I am. I also became a lot more picky about who I spend my time with, and who takes up my energy. My energy is precious!
SPUNKY: What would you say to other women out there right now, what do you think they need to hear?
JOSIE: YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Seek the support you need, and let people know if you need them. Life is a great big adventure, and there are so many ups and downs, but you don’t need to fly it alone.
Keep walking that GRRRL walk and talking that GRRRL talk
Hey everyone! GRRRL Clothing is nothing without you. The history of this amazing brand starts with your personal GRRRL story! I am making it my mission to share your stories by featuring one special GRRRL each month! Lets see what Amelia had to say in this edition of #GRRRLTALK.
SPUNKY: How did you discover GRRRL?
AMELIA: I honestly don’t even remember. I think it may have been on either a FB group or Instagram. Someone recommended GRRRL and I had to go check it out.
Hey everyone! GRRRL Clothing is nothing without you. The history of this amazing brand starts with your personal GRRRL story! I am making it my mission to share your stories by featuring one special GRRRL each month! Lets see what Katherine had to say in this our first edition of #GRRRLtalk.
Spunky: How did you discover GRRRL?
Katherine: I can’t remember exactly 100%, but, I think it started with Instagram. I bought GRRRL leggings after I had a beautiful pair of expensive video game leggings by another company not live up to the expectation. I had seen several GRRRLS on Instagram wearing the leggings and for months I tried to justify buying a pair. Then I saw someone participating in the same running challenge that I was involved with (zombies Run) wearing a pair of GRRRL leggings. I decided that I deserved a reward for completing my goals. The Next Level style of leggings dropped and I bought them and fell in love.
Spunky: Do you remember the first GRRRL item you wore?
Katherine: The Next Level SuperShero leggings. I didn’t take them off for 3 days.
Spunky: What made you want to become part of this movement?
Katherine: I saw so many GRRRLS with an incredible passion for fitness. No matter what sport they were involved in and they were my size!. A lot of the women in my gym are very petite so, being exposed to other women with huge thighs was amazing to me and inspiring. I now follow so many women on Facebook and instagram because of GRRRL and the private Facebook group. It’s genuinely one of the best feelings when I see another GRRRL post about a new Personal Best. I also love reading about women overcoming their obstacles.The group is extremely supportive and I feel like all of these female warriors are my family. I have never in my life had that available to me.
Spunky: How did finding GRRRL change your life?
Katherine: Finding GRRRL inspired and encouraged me to compete in my sport. I’m healthier, happier and generally able to do more stuff. I feel like my life is in a better place and I feel like I can stand my ground. I wish I had discovered GRRRL back when I was a teacher. I feel it would’ve given me the guts to stand up to the horrible bullying that was going on in the school.
Spunky: What would you say to other women out there right now? What do you think they need to hear?
Katherine:It’s tough out there right now. The planet is not happy (it’s having a bit of a hot flush). Keeping our spirits up is tough. But we are stronger, we are better and we will not only survive but we will thrive!
Our clothes won’t change the world. But, the women who wear them will.
Recently I’ve been going through this thing where nothing in my life seems to be working for me anymore. It’s been so much fun! Sarcasm intended. Obviously this sucked at first but, after a few weeks I came to the realization that it needed to happen. I’ve had basically the same schedule and training routine for the last two and a half years. I rush here, rush there, rush rush everywhere trying to get it all done. I wear a lot of hats and juggle a lot of different jobs.
Anyone who says that “a stay at home mom has it easy” needs to be strung up by their toes and smacked with a wet noodle or worse but, for the purposes of this blog I will keep it PG. I dont have the luxury of set working hours where I can punch in and punch out. I’m basically on the clock ALL of the time and when I lay my head down to sleep at night, Im already running through the list of things that I didn’t get done that day and piling those items onto an already booked up tomorrow. Now if that’s not setting myself up for success, I don’t know what is.
This should have been my first clue. Being busy ALL OF THE TIME is not being productive, it’s actually the opposite and in my case it was avoidance not productivity. Ever feel like you are busy all the time and never get anything done? Have you stopped to explore why that is and why you’re doing what you’re doing?
Have you ever taken a second to list all of the things that you do? All of them, even the things that seem unimportant or small? It’s kind of crazy when you see it all laid out on paper. No wonder we are all running around feeling stretched, thin and overwhelmed. I recommend that you try it one day, you will be amazed! Especially if you’ve been hard on yourself for “not getting anything done” or not “getting to that goal” of yours fast enough. It will certainly put things into perspective and give you a new appreciation for your capabilities and strengths instead of your shortcomings. We always focus on our shortcomings don’t we? If you try this exercise feel free to contact me and let me know how it went!
I’ve always known that if you don’t listen to your body and just keep pushing through stuff eventually your body will go on strike and make you tap out. Your body will find way to slow you down and by then it’s not usually not a good thing or personal choice. It will manifest itself into some health issue. But, knowing this doesn’t mean that I used wisdom. It was actually quite the opposite. Like most people, I chose to ignore my early warning system and just kept trudging on. Because we all think we are superhuman and the rules don’t apply to us right? If only I would take my own advice sometimes. Much facepalm.
In my case this crash and burn manifested itself in the form of a pretty major relapse. Depression/anxiety/ ptsd/ binge eating and emotional eating along with some major GI issues. Oh, and we can’t leave out the rapid weight gain from all that excessive mindless eating! And of course that triggered my old body image/dysmorphia issues . I have always been an overachiever even when I crash and burn.
But, jokes aside, I got to the point a few weeks ago where I didn’t want to get out of bed anymore. I didn’t care about my powerlifting gains or setting foot in the gym or counting my macros. I didn’t care about coaching or taking care of my clients or maintaining my social media accounts. I didn’t even care about writing. Forget about being a wife and parent, Homeschooling my son or even basic needs like hygiene and keeping a house clean. I was done. I was burnt out. This was extremely frustrating, It’s not like you can just get off the life train and quit life.
I decided to try and figure out where I went wrong, I mean looking at it from the outside everything looks great right? To anyone else, I am inspirational and motivating. I have my shit together and seem to lead a pretty fantastic life. After several weeks of self reflection the answer I came up with was quite simple. I wasn’t willing to admit defeat. My shit had not been together and I had been overwhelmed for quite some time. I didn’t want to see it because I was too busy being all of the things and doing all of the things. My identity was in the things I was doing. I lost myself somehow and my direction and passion in the process. Talk about humbling…
I have this thing where quitting is never an option. It’s a survival mechanism from my past and it has served me well. Call it what you want. Stubbornness, tenacity or just plain grit and “spunkyness”. It comes from a lifetime of having to fight for every little thing. It comes from childhood abandonment, severe bullying, being a teenage runaway and a recovering drug addict. Surviving rapes, yes that’s plural and more loss than I can express. It comes from being morbidly obese and having to fight through serious illness. Illnesses that were almost successful in ending my life. It comes from always feeling like I had something to prove because I felt that I didn’t start out with the same advantages as others. I considered quitting as a weakness and it kept me alive. That stubbornness and tenacity made me into the woman you all know and love today. It had its purpose.
However, this mentality no longer serves me. I’m currently in a phase of my life where I no longer need to be in survival mode. I have a family and a home, I am not sick with an illness that is threatening my life and there is no impending threat of doom lurking in the shadows. I’ve established a career as a personal trainer and I’ve also become a writer. Out of the wreckage of my past I was able to salvage compassion and forgiveness and from this came my purpose. I am not the same person. It was another lifetime ago.
With that said, I didn’t realize that admitting defeat over my current life struggle is not the same as quitting. Its not. Admitting defeat happened to be one of the most liberating things I’ve done for myself. It took away my need for constant control over every tiny little detail. It took away my need to prove myself and keep performing. It opened up my mind to the fact that while my current situation was no longer working for me it didn’t mean that I was weak but, only that I needed to approach things differently. It gave me the freedom to breathe and let go. It seems so simple but it was completely transformational. Quitting doesn’t leave room for hope. Admitting defeat creates freedom and room for possibilities.
The action of admitting defeat created more room for growth. I was not growing anymore. That is the root of what happened to me. That’s why I felt lost. I had OUTGROWN something that I was still trying to hang onto and had become stuck. There is safety in clutching onto what is familiar. Change rarely happens in the absence of fear. I had to let go of the rigidity of my schedule and my own expectations because they were now limiting me. I’m not the same person that I was when I started my weight loss/powerlifting/body acceptance journey years ago but, I was still living my life like I was and not allowing any room for personal growth. I had become stagnant and there was no joy my “grind” anymore.
As women regardless of the reason, we all struggle with being busy these days. Your past and your current situation may not be like mine but, I’m pretty sure that many of you can relate to something that I’ve shared here today. Don’t be too proud to admit defeat, it just may save you a lot of useless energy and help you re focus on why you started in the first place. What’s the point of living if you are just going through the motions but you aren’t truly alive. I don’t know about you but I want to live a passionate joy filled life and I’m going to do my best to help you live yours too.
Much love from your #mentalgrrrl
I Used To Be The Pretty Girl
I used to be the pretty girl that guys would talk to with ease,
I used to know how to use my smile and my body to tease.
I’m not talking about the girl before a punch took my smile,
I’m talking about the girl who stood tall and who wore the latest style.
She would never let someone knock her down.
I used to be the pretty girl that everyone knew in town,
The girl who would refuse to give in,
Knowing that what the dickhead asked of her was a crime and a sin.
Her lips wouldn’t be afraid to say no,yes,maybe, whatever he didn’t want to hear.
I used to be the pretty girl who would never let someone keep her prisoner for years,
Always begging for the anger and nasty words to stop,
I was that pretty girl who wasn’t listened to by the cops.
I’m trying to be that pretty girl again,
The broken smile I will wear proudly because I took off his ring and began.
I can be that pretty girl because I made the risky and dangerous dive,
But there are so many pretty girls who never make it out alive.
This pretty girl will hold her head high with its missing whites,
Because I’m remembering what exactly are my personal rights.
And I will be that pretty girl again someday,
You beautiful people are helping me find my way!
Hey GRRRL’s Hey, it’s Spunky. I’ve made it my mission to catch up with as many of you ladies who attended GRRRL Live as possible over the next few weeks! GRRRL Live meant many different things to each of us. We loved, we hugged, we cried but most of all we GREW. We grew so much we came home different. I know I did. That’s sisterhood. That’s what happens when you create a space for women to step out in freedom. It’s a beautiful thing.
I had the pleasure of catching up with Leslie Parker who opened up the first part of our Body Confidence workshop on day 2. Leslie Parker is the creator of the TWERKXING PROGRAMM she is also a fitness and boxing instructor. This woman possesses such incredible soul and energy. She’s next level in the BADASS department! It was hard not to feel comfortable while attempting to shake my own ass! That says a lot because twerking and I were not friends before this workshop. Here’s what Leslie had to say about her experience:
“I had an incredible time in Vegas last weekend with all those amazing GRRRLS.
I discovered a spirit where it’s more about how can I use my difference as a strength. Where one doesn’t judge the other because she doesn’t answer to the society code about how a female body has to be to be great.
During our workshop, I really enjoyed seeing freedom in all those women who had suffered with their appearance or body-weight.
They really played the game. They were shameless and had a lot of fun. I love seeing happiness when I teach a class and I could feel a huge positive energy in the room during my workshop.
Some of the girls came over to me at the end of my twerk & fitness class to tell me thanks!
The energy with Yasmine and Iris was super cool. We motivated and supported each other. Our goal was to give our best to make the group feel comfortable. I could feel what we call “sisterhood”
As a badass as I am, I’ve had a hard time with people in the past. But with these GRRRL’s, I could really feel a support and a validation of our deep talent. We are all different. We all have a talent and this spirit helps highlight our greatness.
I hope you will understand my text I’m French and I have to improve my English!!
Big thanks to Kortney and her super team. Long life to GRRRL”
Hey GRRRL’s Hey, it’s Spunky! I just got home from GRRRL Live 2018 and I’m still trying to absorb it all. What an amazing, life changing event! I came home a different woman and I’m certain any woman who made it out to Las Vegas this year feels the same.
Here’s what some of you GRRRL’s had to say about #GRRRLLIVE2018
” Yet again GRRRL Live delivers. A weekend of fun, friendship and badass bitches. Sharing, supporting and shaping the future. The workshops, speakers and the OG event were out of this world! I will be back (and bringing my friends) thanks K.O and team GRRRL‘ – Mish x
” I’m almost certain that I’ve never been in such an encouraging, supportive group of WOMEN like this. Without judgement or competition. The vibrancy made my soul say ” This is what it is. This is truth” Thank you! Can’t wait for next year! – Severina – Felicia’s assistant.
“My favorite thing about GL18 other than seeing my sisters was one of the speakers. Her message about freedom from food really spoke to me. So much so, that I linked up to talk with her in a week or so. It’s a start in the right direction. As an OG, I really enjoyed the boudoir shoot more than I realized. It touched a part of me that I didn’t even know existed. Thank you! – Kanoe
“GL17 gave me the beginning tools, planted the seeds and ignited me on my mission to grow. GL18 empowered those tools, gave me new tools and more perspective. It has me leaving stronger, more educated, more aware and so much more driven. I’m excited for my growth, journey and change between now and GL19! – Cassandra Cuskelly.
“OG is the best part of GRRRL Live for me. It gives me extra time to know the amazing GRRRL’s in my sisterhood on a much deeper level. The photoshoot gave me such anxiety but, once I got into my outfit and started having my pictures taken it really boosted my confidence. It was so much fun!
“What an amazing experience at GL2018! i met a lot of strong empowered women. I’m happy to be part of our GRRRL family and already looking forward to next year!
I have spent the last year doing wonderful things with my body (trail running, rock climbing, playing Division 1 rugby with a team of killer ladies in Denver, and skiing). I have also spent the last year fighting an eating disorder fueled by PTSD and a lifetime of a shitty body image. Today was especially hard,like sit-in-the-grocery-store-parking-lot-for-20-minutes-before-I-got-up-the-courage-to-go-the-fuck-inside hard.It sounds ridiculous. It was. Walking to the mailbox, my logic was bargaining with the destructive side of my mind, trying to keep my dinner in my body. Putting on a piece of clothing that fit me perfectly was a good first step to turning the evening around. Then I read the pledge on mtge tag. There was a part that made the bitch who lives in my head (the one who is never pleased, the one who said “15 lbs gone? Now 10 more? More.”) sit down and shut the fuck up for a few blessed moments. “I am having a POSITIVE IMPACT ON THE WORLD”.My worth is not tied to a meal, a number, a size. Every time I step on the rugby pitch, or run, ski, and climb, I am building my body and giving my mind the fucking break it deserves. If my mind and body are taken care of, I can take care of those around me and leave the earth better than it was before I arrived. I can’t do any of those things if if I’m actively working against my body and constantly degrading myself. I read the pledge again.Then I got up and made my lunches for the week. And you know what? I’m going to eat them too. Its just food. It’s not something to control – it’s fuel, plain and simple. I will put this pledge on my bathroom mirror. I will continue to move on and up. I will learn to love myself. I am going to achieve my goals. I’ve always known all of this, but it has been buried deep.Thank you for what you’ve done with all that is Grrrl and GrrrlArmy.Reporting for duty
Hey everyone it’s Kelly AKA The SpunkyCanuck checking in with the scoop on an awesome GRRRL fairy tale.
Recently, I had the pleasure of catching up with Lizzie and Suzy two GRRRLS who have an amazing story to share. I was familiar with part of their story catching bits and pieces of it here and there in our closed FB group and on Instagram. But, after spending some time with these ladies, I experienced first hand the love that they share for each other. It’s evident that this couldn’t have happened to two more deserving women. After our talk, I was left feeling inspired and hopeful that real life whirlwind, butterflies in the stomach type of romances actually do exist and still happen.
Lizzie, 26 a sweet fun loving pastry chef from Christchurch New Zealand and Suzy, 37 a passionate children’s daycare worker in Chicago IL, had no idea that their lives were going to be completely transformed in EPIC proportions when they became a part of our closed Grrrl Facebook group. I must say that I did get a little emotional putting together this interview. It’s just really nice to see genuine beautiful people fall head over heels in love and come out on top.
Kelly: Tell me the story about how you each found GRRRL Clothing.
Lizzie: I came across Grrrl while I was looking for some new gym wear. I had just started going to the gym with an Olympic lifting friend who was slowly getting me addicted to lifting heavy shit! I loved the clothes so much and through them, I found the Facebook page. I fell in love with the vibe in the group and all the amazing Grrrls. I started talking and interacting with Grrrls and made some really cool friends around the world. Jumping on the Grrrl page felt like coming home.
Suzy: I found Grrrl through a close friend whom I used to Crossfit with. I was down dark path and at the end of bad relationship. I was Literally starting my life over again after a 5 year relationship. One day my friend says to me “Have you heard of Kortney Olson?” and I’m like “who?” and she was like “ what you have never heard of Grrrl?” I hadn’t so I quickly checked them out on Instagram and was added to the FB group shortly after. I was in awe!! I was amazed at all the strong females. And even though I was in the group, I didn’t feel quite up to par. There were so many lovely Grrrls commenting and building me up. Slowly, I was finding my way and.making a couple Grrrl purchases at a time. Even at my heaviest, I was sporting around in shirts that exposed my sports bra and all my jelly rolls. I didn’t care because I represented a brand that was about something. I even attempted to get a Grrrl tattoo however it was spelt accidently with and “ I” in it. I didn’t care, I was invested in this movement. I was a Grrrl!
Kelly: How did you guys meet?
Lizzie: One day I was just cruising around the group seeing what everyone was up to and this Grrrl posted about her donut shorts. She shared about how she wore them to the gym and felt self conscious and awkward. So, I commented about how I have the same shorts and I understood the feeling. She looked amazing in them and I wanted to offer her some support. A little while later I saw she had posted again and I won’t lie, in my head I was like. “she is freakin hot!” After a while seeing her posts and commenting back and forth, I added her as a Facebook friend.
Suzy: I began friending girls slowly and getting to know them a little better. I friended a cute girl named Lizzie who was full of energy and life. I noticed that I could always relate to her quotes about life and relationships. We were literally FB friends for 6 months before we actually spoke to each other!
Kelly: Can you tell me a little bit about how your relationship developed?
Lizzie: We continued commenting on each others posts but, we barely talked at all for several months. Then one day Suzy posted about a dinner voucher she had and that she needed someone to go with her to this dinner. So, I cheekily commented that she should take me on a date! The comments went back and forth about this imaginary date we were going to have. I decided to send her a private message to continue the conversation. I didn’t go to sleep till about 4am that night. I just wanted to keep talking to her. She was so interesting and funny. I was worried if we stopped talking that day, we wouldn’t talk again! How wrong I was!
The next day we just kept talking and to this day the talking hasn’t stopped. We slowly got to know each other. We got good at the time differences and at remembering each others schedules to maximize our talk time. We got up early and stayed up stupid late just so we could talk longer. We started sending each other music to listen to. All of our favorite songs and bands. The music became love songs and the conversation changed from our friendship to something more.
I remember one day I was wondering what her voice sounded like. I sent her a little video just saying “hi”. This is me and my kiwi accent, i’m wondering what you sound like.” This poor little sausage was so nervous about sending one back. It took some encouragement, but she did it for me and a little while later she was comfortable enough to video chat in real time. We started having little dates on video chat. We talked about life and what we both wanted and cared about. It felt crazy to be falling for someone on the other side of the world, who I have never met. It happened so naturally and so easily. I never imagined that it would actually become something. When I realised I had fallen for her, I knew that I had to do something!
Suzy: In June of last year I posted about a birthday voucher and how I needed someone to come with me for dinner. I had no idea that my whole world was about to change. After chatting through a private message with Lizzy I knew I had found a solid friend. I honestly had no intention of finding love at this point. I had been talking to someone for a few months who lived states away. That relationship was pretty much at its end when Lizzie and I started chatting. I was very upfront about my situation. I had been in a dishonest relationship previously and didn’t want to hurt this dear person that I had just met. But, as we continued to talk everyday. I found myself not being able to get through my day without finding out what she had been up to, or what funny things she’d say. She was so very funny and so very charming. Our conversations consisted of real things. Hopes and dreams. She was also encouraging me to go back to school. This girl was amazing and I couldn’t get enough.
Kelly: Can you guys tell me the story about how you first met in person?
Lizzie: A friend of mine sat me down and basically told me that I needed to just go for it! I needed to go and meet her for real and find out if this woman is going to be my forever. My friend set up a crowdfunding campaign to help pay for my flights and my parents helped out a bunch. I have never traveled further than Australia (3 Hour plane ride). Traveling to America by myself was huge!! I was so scared but also crazy excited! The trip was amazing and I never once felt alone. I knew the Grrrl Army was behind me and commenting on my journey as I was sharing it with them. It felt like all the Grrrls were there with me.
Suzy: I never wanted a moment to happen more in my life. To have this girl with me whom I barely knew, but was so quickly was falling for.
After months of talking, I knew I wanted to spend my life with this girl. Me! The person who has been so scared of the whole marriage thing. I wanted nothing more than to make this girl my wife. I wanted her to help me raise my children. She is definitely one of the most selfless people I’ve ever met. I wanted a house and the whole nine yards. I wanted it all. Many would consider us crazy because there is 17 hrs between us. But, to be honest there was never a question of will this work or How will this work? Those questions never crossed my mind. All I knew is that she was mine and I was hers. I was going to make this work. I would do whatever it takes.
When I met this girl at the airport and I held her in my arms for the first time and kissed her lips. It confirmed everything I had been feeling for the previous three months. If I had a ring at that moment, I would’ve proposed to her right then and there. Having her in my space was the best reality I have ever experienced. She was there with me. It was everything. She is my everything. Later on, when I made my journey over to her it was just as exciting! Her world is so awesome and so are her friends and family. I can just tell they helped shape her into the beautiful person she is today.
Kelly: I’m getting all the warm fuzzies just hearing you guys share from the heart. What a beautiful story. Lizzie you mentioned a crowdfunding campaign and the #GRRRLARMY being behind you during that first trip. Can you tell me a little more about how that evolved?
Lizzie: The friend I mentioned earlier secretly messaged the MFCEO and asked her if it would be okay to get the Grrrl Army involved in a crowdfunding campaign to help raise the funds for my trip. Kortney set it all up and started sharing it everywhere. All these GRRRLS who we’ve only known online, sent money and left messages of encouragement. It was so incredibly humbling. I couldn’t believe how much people cared about us.
Kelly: That’s extremely heart warming and amazing. It’s so cool to know that this trip lead to your eventual engagement! Congratulations! Who proposed? And how ?
Lizzie: Suz and I are super romantic, so I wanted her to have the big heartfelt romantic moment. When she booked her flights to come out here to New Zealand and meet my family, I planned this wee picnic in the garden for us. I had a ring made by this amazing kiwi jeweler, it’s one of a kind. When I proposed, about 5 seconds later Suz pulls this frickin ring out of her pocket ! She had the same idea!!!!
Kelly: How incredibly special! And now in less than two weeks you will be getting married at GRRRL Live in Las Vegas! That’s insane! How are you guys feeling, are you nervous?
Lizzie: I am crazy excited! My dress is just having a few final touches this week and everyone at my work is counting down the days with me!
Suzie: I’m super excited! However i’m a worrier. I worry about traveling and making sure everything will go alright.
Suzy: Oh how things have changed. It’s like they say when you know -you know and with Lizzie, I have always known.
Lizzie: I read this thing a while ago about how there are 2 types of people. Jumpers and toe dippers. I have never found another jumper before until I met Suz. Like we just went for it!
Yep, they sure did go for it. It’s amazing what a group of determined women can accomplish when they want to get something done. We’ve seen it with our even more recent crowdfunding campaign, The Self Love Rebellion Project. Grrrls are changing the world. I am very much looking forward to watching these two get married and sharing in that moment. It will no doubt be memorable. I am honored to be involved in sharing their story. I am honored to be a part of an amazing group of women who are making shit happen every day! Stay tuned, I will be writing a follow up on these love birds after the wedding!
Peace love and Lolipops
It’s time to call attention to why GRRRL Clothing exists. It’s time to look past the clothing and truly understand the heartbeat of GRRRL and what can be accomplished through our Self Love Rebellion Campaign.
GRRRL clothing exists to create change for a generation of struggling young women who are currently and will eventually be leading this world. The struggle is so real that our youth are dangerously crippled and lost. We need your help. Our clothing is the vehicle we use to get the message out. It’s the flag we fly and banner we raise to rally the troops who will stand for change in a marketing world that would rather look the other way and profit from female dysfunction. Our vision is much greater than the clothes on our backs.
To quote Ceo of GRRRL, Clothing Kortney Olson, in her emotionally moving video for the self love rebellion project, “History tells us that we need HERstory. A stronger female influence. But how can that happen when women are consumed by an epidemic of self-harm, self-doubt, self-hate, fear, and prejudice? The annual healthcare costs for eating disorders globally is 1 trillion dollars. One in 3 women will experience domestic violence. One in five will experience depression. One in 5 teenage girls will suffer from body image related mental illnesses. What is the answer? Self love. All the research shows that self love is the personal pillar that underpins the achievement of potential. It fosters unity, disengages prejudice and fosters equality. It is the key that unlocks potential and personal happiness.”
1 in 5 teenage girls will experience depression before they reach adulthood.
7 in 10 girls believe that they are not good enough or don’t measure up in some way, including their looks, performance in school, and relationships with friends and family members.
Over 70% of girls aged 14–17 years avoid normal daily activities, such as attending school, when they feel bad about their looks.
Eating disorders are the 3rd most common chronic illness in young females.
Self-harm hospital admissions have increased by more than 68% in the last 10 years, with teenage girls 50% more likely to self-harm compared to teenage boys.
The incidence of eating disorders has DOUBLED in the last 10 years.
75% of girls with low self-esteem reported engaging in negative activities such as cutting, bullying, smoking, drinking, or disordered eating.
We didn’t create the the Self-Love Rebellion Project because we want to sell clothing. Yes, our clothing is award-winning and awesome. Plus, when you support us by contributing to our growth, you will receive amazing GRRRL gear in return. It really is a win-win situation. Your contribution will enable us to visit 5 cities in America to provide access to our life-changing self-love event absolutely free of charge. You will be changing lives and rocking amazing gear.
Based on the eye-opening statistics I shared above, chances are that if you’re a woman reading this, you’ve been directly or indirectly affected by one or several of the issues mentioned. If you’re a male reading this, there is most likely a woman in your life right now who is silently struggling. You can make a difference.
We can help. We want to arm women with the tools they need to conquer their inner demons and rise above. It’s alarming that we live in a culture where self-love is considered rebellious and that standing up against mass media marketing to normalize all body shapes, colours, and backgrounds is considered courageous.
Ask yourself who you have allowed to influence your beliefs. Have you ever thought about how your thoughts have been influenced by the media? We typically accept our thoughts as truth without thinking about where they came from and why. Companies profit from negative self-images while women destroy themselves. Hating yourself is considered acceptable and normal behavior. What is most alarming is that these behaviors are expected and encouraged. Can you imagine how many companies would go out of business today if women simply started loving themselves? There is so much work to be done, and it starts right here with The Self-Love Rebellion and you.
This is our pledge. We intend to change the world one pledge at a time, one woman at a time.
I solemnly swear to the best of my ability to refrain from talking negatively about myself as well as other Grrrls.
I am an equal amongst my peers, and see myself as neither better than nor less than them.
Through this pledge of non-judgment, I understand and embrace that I am having a positive impact on the world and furthering the global revolution of body acceptance.
I take this pledge.
It’s time to change the game. It’s time to change our inner narrative as a society. It’s time for healing to begin. Come read our story. We invite you to become a vital part of the rebellion. We invite you to help us mobilize an army of change.
Remember as Eleanor Roosevelt said. A woman is like a tea bag-you cant tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.
Keep fighting the good fight