Grrrl has withdrawn its sponsorship of Julianna Pena over Ronda Rousey comments.

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GRRRL CEO Kortney Olson has withdrawn her clothing line’s sponsorship of UFC athlete Julianna Pena over her public bodyshaming of former UFC champion Ronda Rousey.

Grrrl is the first clothing label in the world not to feature sizing, instead helping women to match their body-type to a range of global female athletes‚Äô figures. It also has a manifesto unparalleled in its commitment to right the glaring wrongs in the fashion industry. ¬†Kortney today commented, ‚ÄúAt the end of the day, GRRRL clothing exists to empower women. Not to sell more tshirts. I was extremely excited to bring Pena on-board, as I believe she has the fierce spirit of a champion. And has the potential to dominate the division for many years. She’s hard as nails, but unfortunately, her nails are rusty. ¬†

To call another fighter ‘fat’ completely contradicts who and what we stand for as a brand. And while it may cost us to miss out on the publicity of Julianna winning a world title, we think it‚Äôs more important to stay true to what we believe. ¬†There will always be an element of trash talking between fighters. It’s a big part of the lure of the sport. Humans love drama. However, calling out a woman by referring to her “fat arms” when she’s experienced bulimia is unacceptable and I won’t have a rusty fucking bit of it.‚ÄĚ

Kortney added, ‚ÄúActive wear and sports wear brands like to present themselves as empowering women. In reality, it‚Äôs just a cynical marketing ploy by corporations, mostly men, that do nothing for women other than reinforce stupid, harmful stereotypes. And we want no part in that. As much as we believe in Juliana as an athlete, we have to look beyond that.‚ÄúThe very brands that pretend to support women in our industry are actually abusing, demeaning and holding women back. If you think I‚Äôm exaggerating, I suggest you google Chip Wilson of Lululemon, or fat shaming and Lorna Jane.‚ÄĚ‚ÄúWe‚Äôre tired of billion dollar companies masquerading as female-friendly. We‚Äôre tired of the hypocrisy of brands presenting as female-focused when they‚Äôre perpetuating female stereotypes.” #grrrlarmy #integrity #GRRRL #ufc¬†GRRRL Clothing

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This, is a public apology for posting a picture of your dick.

Because I live that ‘spiritual life’, I’m responsible for my actions. ¬†I take regular inventory of myself and call myself on my bullshit when necessary.

Dick pics.  Lets talk about them.

Now some of you may have noticed I turned my messages off on my Facebook fan page. ¬†Reason being, is on average, I’d get 2-3 different dick pics a day. ¬†That’s not such ¬†big deal, right? ¬†But when you add it in with the countless messages from men I don’t know (wouldn’t matter if I did know them to be frank), about how they want to:

-plow my big ass with their cock
-have me smash their dick between my strong legs
-etc etc

It gets old.

I get it.  Men are programmed to be aroused differently.  Us women want to have a deep and meaningful conversation while we stare into each others eyes, then hope you start out by kissing our neck gently.

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That has always remained the same. ¬†But- somewhere along the way after the birth of the internet, there’s been zero education on how to ‘act right’ online, via computer, phone, or any other piece of technology. ¬†Now with virtually anything accessible at your fingertips, life’s a very different place prior to before the internet. ¬†It’s become ‘normal’ for men to talk this way to women they don’t know.

Now, I do my best to not judge. ¬†As most of you know I spent close to 3 years in the ‘muscle fetish underground’ world as a ‘muscle goddess’, getting paid to stand around and flex, or demonstrate features of strength. ¬†Nothing surprises me anymore. ¬†And most of my ‘fans’ I got to know extremely well. ¬†I don’t see anything as “weird” or “gross”. ¬†Just “normal”, great men with a fascination or obsession with “different” aspects of arousal. ¬†The only thing I do know now, is that life is not what it seems. ¬†ALL people wear masks. ¬†Whenever I get pulled over by a cop, or need to stand in front of a judge again (hopefully those days are gone forever since I quit drinking 7 years ago lol) I can silently sit and think to myself “ah- yes… I know what you like to do when you get off work behind closed doors…. put on women’s pantyhose and get slapped around!”. ¬†Or even the dentist…

I digress.

The point is, the dick pics get old. ¬†And they aren’t getting you anywhere.

Now, here’s the apology. Kinda-

A few months back, I had a one-way conversation start in my personal Facebook messages with a guy talking about his dick. ¬†Along with pictures of it of course. ¬†I didn’t see it for months, because I can’t keep up with my inbox. ¬†I hardly catch my dad’s messages. ¬†I’m actually contemplating shutting messages off on my personal page as well. ¬†Anyway, I gave this guy a really good reply, and decided to share it in a closed group of women whom I lead, since the topic of dick pics came up (again).

Not a problem, right? ¬†If you send me a picture of your dick and continue to message me without me replying, that’s fair ground to put your shit out in public, isn’t it? ¬†Well to some, maybe. ¬†At the time it seemed fine to me. ¬†But that changed. ¬†And it only changed when the guy potentially found out about it, as he messaged me again and asked if I “blasted him on Facebook lol”.

Without blocking his name from the picture, this opens him up to anything. ¬†And who knows, maybe he’d take his own life out of embarrassment by women being able to go and look him up publicly. ¬†Although he has one of the most common names in the world, and his wall is covered in posts about the enormous size of his dick, the point is, all of my actions have consequences. ¬†Potentially none to him, but other women may see that move as a display of character and that they might not be able to trust me. ¬†So often we do shit without thinking all the way through. ¬†Kind of like when I was still drinking…… “if I take this 10th cocktail, I miiiiiiiiiiiiiiight end up getting behind the wheel and running over a family of 4 walking down the street while singing to Prince too loudly whilst in a blackout”. ¬†Never really thought about that shit!

Whilst I focus my life on empowering¬†women not to judge other women, and more importantly, not to judge ourselves, I can’t have my cake and eat it to. ¬†I can’t live my principles, and only apply them to certain classes of people. ¬†As one of my teachers said, ‘by creating enemy’s we create separation”.

I don’t know this man. ¬†I don’t know how he was raised. ¬†Potentially without a strong mother figure. ¬†I don’t know if he’s a drug addict seeking attention or help.

Upon taking regular inventory of myself, I can see when my actions don’t match up with how I’m aiming to live my life. ¬†If I’m striving to be the best possible version of me, I have to address this stuff as it comes up, and realise the only reason why I checked my actions was because he potentially found out.

Lastly, a word of advice on dick pics. ¬†Just as I said to this young man, “don’t bother”. ¬†The single most attractive trait women find appealing in a partner, is quiet confidence. ¬†I told him, “don’t attract women who just want you for your massive dick”, “whip it out when the time is right and surprise the shit out of her”…

In fact, here’s exactly what I wrote:

“No, i don’t think you’re sorry you sent a dick pic. i don’t know why i was compelled to look at your profile. you love toting that you have a big dick. let me let you in on a little secret: women love quiet confidence. stop chasing women who’d be interested in your big dick. much more satisfaction to hook up with a girl for reasons other than having a big dick. THEN whip it out (when the time is right) and surprise her. when you brag about it, it makes you look like a mark. confidence is the HOTTEST thing in another person. you have a big dick- and only you need to know that. rest assured in the silence that you have the biggest dick of all the land. and a lucky women MIGHT get to see it. don’t whore yourself out. Namaste”

As I read in a article the other day, it was suggested by this woman that men send pics of their dick as a power play. ¬†They do it knowing that we can’t un-see it, and more than likely wouldn’t want to. ¬†If you think about it, it’s not like a dick is a comparison of a beautiful bouquet of gorgeous smelling flowers. ¬†Unless you’re a cougar who’s been locked up in a cage for years, and you’re in your prime, we aren’t going to view your dick pic as fresh meat. ¬†Women’s brains aren’t programmed that way. ¬†Yes there are some freaks out there who LOVE a dick pic, and that’s absolutely awesome. ¬†But for the majority of us, it’s a strike out. ¬†And we’re more than likely going to draw pictures on it and send it to our friends.

Namaste Bitchesssssssss!

And to the mystery man with the penis that hangs down to your knee, and Facebook wall with public posts about how massive your dick is, I apologise.

 

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If you’re not

A) A woman or,
B) A human being

then you might not have cellulite.

But, chances are, you are both, therefor rending you with some amount of dimple or ripple. ¬†Some of us have more than others. ¬†Diet, genetics, and level of activity all play a part in the amount. ¬†For myself, I’m extremely active. ¬†I work out 6 days a week, eat clean, haven’t drank or done drugs in 7 years, take probiotics and a lot of other supplements, drink pure aloe vera juice every morning (even on an empty stomach), sleep 7 hours on average a night, and more or less love my life. ¬†However, I still find that I have a fair amount of cellulite on the back of my legs.

I know that a majority of it, in my personal situation, is genetic.  I also know that I create a lot of self perceived stress, and stress is the root of all evil in my life lol.  I also know that I take too many stimulants, and have jacked up my central nervous system over the past several years.

I write this to remind you that a lot of us forget the simple fact, that most women have cellulite. ¬†Primarily due to the fact that¬†most of us are not brave enough to post pictures of our ‘realness’ because we’ve been programmed to see it as repulsive, unsightly, and unattractive. ¬†So what most of us see, are images of ‘perfectness’ from every other female, besides ourselves. ¬†For example, here is a photo of me in the bathroom, from the side. ¬†Looks pretty amazing right? (lol) <little too much side boob, sorry. get over it->

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But from the back with different lighting, it’s a completely different story, isn’t it?

 

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These particular pictures were taken in August, 2015. ¬†For me to get from the above photo, to the below photo, took a lot of ridiculous, hard work. ¬†Work that no one should ever have to do (aka, compete in a physique show lol). ¬†I’m talking 45 minutes of fasted cardio every day, strict dieting, and aggressive weight training 5 days a week, for 4 months continuously.

 

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Point being, this didn’t last long. After a few months, the normal cellulite came back, despite the fact that I’m still, to this day, doing everything that I mentioned in the first paragraph. ¬†So….. sometimes, this can mess with my head because I merely forget that

A) I’m a woman, and
B) I’m a human being.

Consider this your friendly service announcement.

:-)

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How I started a clothing company is not a simple feat.  Let me tell ya!

But, what I can say, is I NEVER¬†saw it turning out the way that it has today. ¬†You see, the problem we have when chasing our dreams, is that we give up simply because things don’t turn out the EXACT¬†way we thought they would.

We do what Mike Dooley calls, “getting caught up in the cursed hows”.

Let me start at the beginning.

2009-2011 I stumbled into the “muscle fetish world” where I discovered an entire planet of men who would pay ridiculous amounts of money to experience some form of female strength ¬†across the globe. ¬†From arm wrestling, to wrestling, to being picked up and carried around, I had first hand experience that strong, powerful women were truly a “thing”, and that perhaps, all the Calvin Klein ads had been lying to me as to what is considered “beautiful” in society. ¬†Ironic that happened to happen to a girl who had spent her entire life hating her body, her powerhouse. ¬†Eating disorders, drug and alcohol abuse, sexual assault…

2011-2012 I launched a brand called Konfidence By Kortney where I could start making videos empowering women about all the truths I’d learned along the way. ¬†Also sharing my tools from 12 step recovery and battling addiction. ¬†I started realising that women were systematically being programmed by ‘the elite’ to see each other as competition, as well as to keep us preoccupied with being concerned around¬†losing or gaining 5LBS so we’d stay distracted to the issues that mattered the most. ¬†Never mind global warming and women’s rights- be concerned with Kim Kardashian.

I also spent WAY too much time on youtube researching conspiracy theories. (lol)

2013 I started Kamp Konfidence: A prevention based wellness program for teenage girls.  The vision was a world free from all forms of self harm for females.  The mission was the educate with the 5 habits, principles, and lessons that lead to the development of self love.  Then, creating a sisterhood of bonded sisters. www.kampkonfidence.com 

Here is a screenshot of 2013, where I messaged our designer and dear friend, Kelda from Hjello Designs, about creating shirts for the kampers:

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The Kamp was extremely successful. ¬†One of the initiatives we rolled out during Kamp, was this thing called “The Peldge”. ¬†After we did the ‘body awareness’ workshop, where the girls learned the truth behind media and advertising, and listened to Jean Kilburn lecturing with “killing us softly”, the girls would take the pledge in front of their peers, then get a special wristband:

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Kamp K went for a good year and a half, before one of my two partners fell pregnant, and we put it on hold. ¬†I continued to pursue my network marketing business, as I thought THIS was the way I was going to fund Kamp Konfidence. No more relying on outside funding, AND I’d get to empower women to make money on their own terms along the way. ¬†I did however, find out network marketing wasn’t for after a long ass year of trying too hard.

2014 My partner got a “vision” driving home from the office one day about creating a clothing line of athletic wear specific for each sport. ¬†We would have “run like a girl” “hit like a girl”, etc. ¬†5 days later, the #likeagirl campaign rolled out from US based feminine product company, Always . ¬†Next day we went out and registered, “Like A Girl Clothing” pty ltd. ¬†It sat and did nothing for the entire year.

Along the way that year, I started collaborating with a colleague named Jed, about coming up with images of empowerment for Women.  I wanted to start reaching the masses, instead of just 8-10 teenage girls every other weekend in Australia, through Kamp Konfidence.

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Well, fast forward to August 2015 and that’s when it all happened. ¬† www.grrrl.com

Now, today, we have a massive movement in motion.  Women all over the world are starting to realise that we are meant to be united, aka the #grrrlarmy . Women realise that there is strength in numbers, and that we must fight this war of equality together in order to win.

Below is a photo of our #grrrlarmy members in Texas with our “American GRRRL” muscle tees on, ripping shit up, and playing hard.

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“The Pledge” is now on GRRRL¬†Clothing as a hang tag, available for all females around the world to take and upload a video as documentation when doing the pledge.

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So you see, things didn’t turn out how I initially envisioned in my head. ¬†Along the way they kept changing, but one thing remained the same: I kept showing up with the end result in mind. ¬†The end result of creating a unified group of females, all striving for the same thing. ¬†Judgement free, supportive, loving, and caring. ¬†Empowering one another to be strong, and break free from the programming of “not good enough”. ¬†Helping each other realise our true potential collectively.

I can’t tell you how many times I got upset and thought, “FK THIS! THIS IS NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN”. ¬†But the truth is, the universe has a plan. ¬†SO as long as we don’t get caught up in how we THINK it’s supposed to work out (the fine detail), it’ll work our eventually. ¬†Keep your vision strong, and your muscles stronger. ¬†And it’ll come to pass. ¬†It might take you 4 years like myself. ¬†It might take you 10. ¬†But if you want it, and you don’t EVER give up, be 110% certain that the Universe has your back.

Namaste Bitchessssssssssss!

and PS, if you ever get a chance to see Mike Dooley do his “playing the matrix” seminar, I highly suggest you do so!

 

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I’ve blogged about this a while back. ¬†But apparently I need to write about it again. ¬†Probably because I spent so many years of my life in the dark in regards to HOW powerful language and spoken word can be, especially on a subconscious level. ¬†Come to think of it, I believe the last time I blogged about this topic, I wrote about the word “just”, and how women in particular need to eliminate this word from our vocabulary as much as possible.

In a nutshell, words we often use, we think have a particular meaning. ¬†Then, after a while, they become habitual, and unnecessary. ¬†Without awareness, we continue using words that aren’t even needed, and instead of getting our point across, they actually have an adverse effect. ¬†For example, the word “just” seems harmless, but often it comes across to others that we feel like we have to justify ourselves for thinking or acting a certain way. ¬†In business particularly, women can damage themselves with the overuse of this word.

Lets say you’re in a board meeting. ¬†Conversations are going around what the next best move is for the company. ¬†A couple of guys start chiming in with their opinion and you strongly disagree.

John: “I don’t think management needs to be policing these departments.”

You: “Can I say something, John?”, “I just don’t think these departments have the right leaders to not need policing from management.”

Instead of answering, “John, I don’t think these departments have the right leaders to not need policing from management.”

Can you see how much stronger the second reply is?

Not only are you not asking for permission to speak, you simply state the facts from your point of view without feeling like you need to justify why- In other words, you bloody matter, and your goddamn opinion is valuable, and doesn’t need justifying.

The same can be said for words like “really” and “very”. ¬†Again, women in particular tend to overuse these words to feel like we need to hit home our point, and be heard. ¬†When in actuality, these words take¬†away¬†from the point you are trying to make.

Your daughter: I beat a boy up at school today for calling my friend Sally a fat pig.

You: “I’m very proud of you Jessica Ann!”

Instead of answer, “I’m proud of you Jessica Ann!”

Can you see how very takes away from being proud?

Now, the whole point of this blog was to write about the word “sorry”. ¬†STOP USING IT. ¬†NOW!

When I was running Kamp Konfidence, and talking and texting to teens on a daily basis, I cannot tell you how many times I found myself repeating myself: “STOP FUCKING SAYING YOU’RE SORRY! ¬†YOU DO NOT OWE ME, OR ANYONE ELSE AN APOLOGY!”. ¬†(and yes, dropping f-bombs when talking to my girls, works for us. I apologise in advance for offending any readers, but I’m sure as shit NOT sorry!)

Lets say I sent my mini me, Courtney a couple of text messages. ¬†I don’t hear back from her for 30 minutes. ¬†When usually, as most teenagers do, respond right away because their phone is in their hand.

Me:  Hey shawty!  How was schoo?  Did you smash that math test or what bissssssssssch!?

Court:  Oh heyyyyyyyyy babe!  Sorry for the slow reply, I was in the shower.

Me: What the fuck are you saying sorry for? ¬†I didn’t know you had to be sorry for taking a shower??????

Court: Oh my gosh!  I never even realised that!

Saying or typing “I’m sorry” without even needing to, subconsciously tells ourselves that we are in a constant state of, once again, needing to justify ourselves, explain ourselves, or any other unnecessary bullshit that takes away from our power. ¬†The word “sorry” has become an empty, meaningless word most often used by people who are prone to speak passive-aggressively.

“Oh- I’m SORRY that you feel that way. ¬†and I’m SORRY that you think I was a bitch to you-”

lol- you see where this is going. ¬†Is that person truly sorry? ¬†NO! Of course not. ¬†Instead of taking responsibility and communicating like a win-win assertive person, and responding (not reacting) with “Oh- I apologise you feel that way. ¬†Is there something I did to cause you to feel I was a bitch to you? ¬†Because it certainly wasn’t intentional, and I’d like to resolve it straight away. ¬†I don’t want to fight with you. ¬†We both deserve to be free from guilt and all that other bullshiiiiiiiiiiit!”.

 

SO!  In conclusion, lets set some things straight:

  1. be mindful/aware when using the words “really” and “very”. ¬†they are not needed most often and actually take away from what you’re aiming to express.
  2. eliminate the words “just” and “sorry” as much as possible. ¬†Instead, if you actually owe an apology for something, say “I apologise”.
  3. pay attention to your self esteem. ¬†when you take time to be aware of your communication style, the words you use, and tell yourself you ARE worthy of great shit, you will attract such. ¬†(and I use the “foul” language from time to time when I write because I want you to know that I am an average woman, with not-so-average strength hahahaha! ¬†I’m not some communications expert with a degree. ¬†I’m simple a woman who wants to empower people to take control of their lives and help them realise that we are ALL worthy)

Namaste Bitchessssssssssssss!

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Ladies and Gentlemen….

I present to you….. a ticking time bomb.

I don’t have the patience, nor heart to write this blog right now. ¬†But I’ve got to get this out. ¬†My hope is that every parent, every sibling who has a younger sister (or brother for that fact- boys are just as high at risk as girls), or any person who has a friend that is incredibly insecure, shares this blog.

As most of you know, I spent nearly 3 years in the trenches developing and running a program for teenage girls called Kamp Konfidence, out in Australia. ¬†I’ve seen and heard it all- ¬†Times have changed from back in the day when I was in high school. ¬†And although I and my fellow leaders had the same pressures of trying to fit in, and feel worthy, we did not have the issue of social media looming over our heads. ¬†In fact, I believe this is why the educational system has not gotten up to speed with incorporating the appropriate curriculum (such as Kamp Konfidence) into junior high and high schools, because us adults haven’t really grasped the full impact social media is having on young people’s lives.

Today I came across an app that absolutely ripped my bleeding heart from my chest. ¬†I literally became a photoshop expert in a matter of 30 seconds. ¬†Below, you will find before and after photos that I created using an app (which I will not name because I don’t want this shit virus spreading any further than it already has).

The insane part of this little experiment, is that I used to look at these untouched photos I took with a best friend of mine last August, and see beauty. ¬†Now seeing them next to this 30 second app hack wannabe photoshop job, it blatantly draws out all of the shit society deems as “aged”. ¬†I don’t feel as “fresh”. ¬†And the craziest part of it all? ¬†I LOVE MYSELF! ¬†I KNOW beauty is from within. ¬†I’m beautiful because I’m a goddamn GOOD person. ¬†Not because my eyes are shaped like tasty almonds, and my nose like a little button you just wanna squeeze.

But imagine a 14, 12, or even 11 year old girl who is scrolling across social media with ZERO level of self awareness and no idea what self talk is (yet). ¬†How is she going to feel about herself, when someone as Konfident as I am, can look at these side by side and feel negativity run through my veins? ¬†Despite consciously KNOWING it’s not real-

This app allows you to ‘stretch’, slim (makes your face thinner), cover acne/freckles, change tone, smooth (basically airbrush), and finishes off with INSANE filters that give your photos a look of something that just came out of freeze frame scene of The King of Thrones.

 

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Unless you actively are balls deep in the study of the impact ads and media play in our lives, and have your awareness switched onto it 24/7, these 1,000’s of ads we see on a daily basis, wreck havoc on our subconscious. ¬†The mind is all powerful, and for most of us, is something we hardly look into in terms of how it actually works. ¬†That being, how we create beliefs about ourselves, and how powerful our subconscious mind is.

Now, for us women born in the 1990’s and above, great news: we’re already semi scarred, and most of us working on healing. ¬†It’s pretty much safe to say that we ALL have this blueprint belief that we are meant to look like the photo on the left hand side (minus the third one down… screwed that one up lol. it is KILLING my OCD hahahaha!). ¬† ¬†However, if from an early age we were brought up without seeing ads repeatedly of what success and beauty looks like, ……………….. you know what? ¬†I’m done writing this.

I’m not feeling it. ¬†AT ALL. ¬†Most of you don’t need me to spell it out. ¬†Please talk to your friends, kids, partner about this. ¬†With apps giving people the ability to photoshop their “selfies” in under 30 seconds with zero skills whatsoever, we are going to see more and more of this ‘flawless’ fake, unachievable world.

If you are going to keep it real, and know that everyone else is waiting for someone else to go first, start using this hashtag. ¬†And if you do post photoshopped photos (which I’m sure at some point in the future I’ll be on the cover of some magazine with RuPaul, and I know they’ll photoshop that shit! lolololol), at the very least take the vow to make a disclaimer.

#therealness

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