So check this out…
On my IG I have a WAZOO of messages in my DM request folder. I used to go in there once a month and have a scout for grrrls reaching out, but now I attempt to do it once every other day. Today I found this message from a guy that taught me a little lesson. Hence why I’m here to share with you.
Let me just paint a picture for you. I’m having a horrible day. Yeah, poor me. But legit- being an entrepreneur is incredibly difficult. Every single day is a new height, on a brand new roller coaster, that’s never been ridden before. One day you’re at the top of it, laughing so hard you’re nearly crying, then 6 hours later your stuck upside down actually crying because you’re scared and you want the fuck off. So today, I’m not in a great frame of mind. Taking that energy with me, I opened up the DM request folder.
99 out of 100 DM’s are from blokes. Either sending a shitty emoji in response to my story, which of course has disappeared so I’ve no clue what it was in response to anyway- or, saying how they want to do x, y, or z to me. I rarely open them and look, and I usually always never reply. But then I saw this fella, and thought “huh- he doesn’t look like your average guy trying to holler at me… let’s see what it says.”
Then I read his message. I got to the last sentence, and saw “I will tell you more about me on fb messenger or email”. I immediately thought, “the FUCK you will! Who the hell do you think you are Romeo?”…. then for shits and giggles I clicked on to check out his feed. I looked at a couple of the newest post, and Immediatly thought “should I bloke this bloke?”… But then I kept scrolling. I watched the above video, and started to wonder if they guy was a bit psycho. Then, for whatever reason, it dawned on me. It dawned on me what his actual message said before that last sentence I chose to become fixated on, when I started drawing up my judgements about him.
He said, “I am 48 years old and have a fourth grade level math skills, this is what makes me unique”. Then it dawned on me- maybe this guy isn’t trying to hit on me, or holler at me- and he simply is just looking for a goddamn fucking Friend.
You see, perspective is a really powerful tool. We always have the choice to look at every situation in a different light. ALWAYS. Yes, it’s incredibly important to follow your instincts and be switched on when scrolling social media, and block people who might pose a risk of being obsessive- but all in all- remember that you might have some lonely people out there in the world just looking for a connection.
Do the next right thing and be a decent human being.